Are ya’ll Checking In?

A few months have passed and you and your partner are going through the notions of life. You both work full time, you have a kid or multiple kids, they’re in sports and you have multiple businesses and hobbies that you both are into. Life is super busy. However you and your partner are rocking and rolling. Well… until you're not. One stressful day causes an unnecessary and petty argument and next thing you know y'all are both in pissy moods. After a few hours of going back and forth, you uncover the true issue. One of you have a lot going on at work, which ultimately has heightened their irritability.. And ultimately triggered this disagreement. 

This.. This right here is why checking in with your partner is so important. It is so easy to go through the notions of life without addressing those small, subtle stressors and to downplay them as “not that big of a deal.” It is so easy to get into a rhythm with your spouse, where everything is running like a well oiled machine so why bring up stress from work when home is fine, right?  For some of us, not discussing these stressors can give us the illusion that everything in our lives and our partners life is fine. However, when we don’t discuss these things they tend to pile up.

By having a heart to heart conversations with your spouse, in a space free of retaliation and judgement, it can allow both parties to be vulnerable and ultimately make for better communication throughout your relationship. It can also prevent some of those small petty disagreements that arise when life is just a little overwhelming. 

If you and your partner can relate to this message, and are not intentional about Checking In with one another give it a try and let us know how it goes.